How to change the world 
The phenomenon of being questioned about one’s performance of gender is called “gender policing.” Generally there are three ways to respond to gender policing: (1) apologize and follow the gender rules, (2) make an excuse for why you’re breaking the rules (which allows you to break them, but still affirms the rules), or (3) do something that suggests that the rules are stupid or wrong. Only the last one is effective in changing or eradicating norms delimiting how men and women are expected to behave. (via How to Change the World One Shrug at a Time » Sociological Images)

How to change the world
The phenomenon of being questioned about one’s performance of gender is called “gender policing.” Generally there are three ways to respond to gender policing: (1) apologize and follow the gender rules, (2) make an excuse for why you’re breaking the rules (which allows you to break them, but still affirms the rules), or (3) do something that suggests that the rules are stupid or wrong. Only the last one is effective in changing or eradicating norms delimiting how men and women are expected to behave. (via How to Change the World One Shrug at a Time » Sociological Images)

For many of us it seems that to be a feminist in the way that we have seen or understood feminism is to conform to an identity and way of living that doesn’t allow for individuality, complexity, or less than perfect personal histories. We fear that the identity will dictate and regulate our lives, instantaneously pitting us against someone, forcing us to choose inflexible and unchanging sides, female against male, black against white, oppressed against oppressor, good against bad. This way of ordering the world is especially difficult for a generation that has grown up transgender, bisexual, interracial, and knowing and loving people who are racist, sexist, and otherwise afflicted.
Rebecca Walker
In the 19th century, the father of modern gynecology, J. Marion Sims, conducted his research experiments on enslaved Black women. Sims performed the invasive and torturous procedures without anesthesia. J. Marion Sims’ justification for choosing not to anesthetize his test subjects was that he did not believe Black women felt pain at all. In an 1857 lecture, he stated that it was “not painful enough to justify the trouble.”

In the 19th century, the father of modern gynecology, J. Marion Sims, conducted his research experiments on enslaved Black women. Sims performed the invasive and torturous procedures without anesthesia. J. Marion Sims’ justification for choosing not to anesthetize his test subjects was that he did not believe Black women felt pain at all. In an 1857 lecture, he stated that it was “not painful enough to justify the trouble.”

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queeringcomics:

Cate Blanchett’s acceptance speech may have read feminist, and her wording was beautiful, except her thanking of Woody Allen (whose adopted daughter Dylan Farrow has come out publicly about her abuse at the hand of her proto-father) and intentional framing of him as a feminist film maker, that everyone seems so fast to ignore in congratulating her for ‘calling out the Academy.’
Blue Jasmine saw no other nominations or awards for a reason, and her acting deserved all it won, but Cate Blanchett chose to reinforce an industry that values male filmmakers and celebrities like Woody Allen over the children and young women they abuse and violate. That doesn’t sound very feminist to me. 

queeringcomics:

Cate Blanchett’s acceptance speech may have read feminist, and her wording was beautiful, except her thanking of Woody Allen (whose adopted daughter Dylan Farrow has come out publicly about her abuse at the hand of her proto-father) and intentional framing of him as a feminist film maker, that everyone seems so fast to ignore in congratulating her for ‘calling out the Academy.’

Blue Jasmine saw no other nominations or awards for a reason, and her acting deserved all it won, but Cate Blanchett chose to reinforce an industry that values male filmmakers and celebrities like Woody Allen over the children and young women they abuse and violate. That doesn’t sound very feminist to me. 

You have no food or housing? The schools and infrastructure are crumbling? There are no jobs? The government is oppressive and corrupt? Wealthy people are parasites of the society? Forget all about that! Look over there! Queer people are being queer! OUTRAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
An okey doke that has been successful since the dawn of human civilization
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triflesandparsnips:

This morning my daughter, who is nearly four, saw the stretch marks on my hips and stomach. She ran her hands over them and asked what they were.

“I got them when I grew up,” I said, “and a few more when I had you.” I grinned down at her. “They’re my stripes. You’ll get stripes too when you grow up.”

She was overjoyed. “Really?

I think she’s in her room now, pretending to be a tiger.

This is what we need to teach.